National Road Victim Month

August is National Road Victim Month. Over 500,000 people have been killed on the roads in Great Britain since the death of Bridget Driscoll in 1896. August was designated National Road Victim Month by RoadPeace after the death of Diana Princess of Wales in 1997. She was killed on 31 August, the same day as the world’s first motor vehicle victim, Mary Ward, was killed in Ireland in 1869. Britain’s first road death also occurred in August, when Bridget Driscoll was killed in Crystal Palace on 17th August 1896, with the coroner pronouncing “this must never happen again”.

As well as remembering people that have been lost and injured, it is also a great opportunity to raise awareness to make our roads safer.

It has hit home a lot more this year, as I am still recovering from the car accident I had a month ago. I know I am much luckier than lots of people who have car crashes. It affected me a lot mentally (being scared that every car was going to crash into me) aswell as physically (ribs, neck, shoulders, back are still painful a month on) and I’m one of the lucky ones!

It has made me more aware that however good a driver we are, we have to be so aware of others. I was in so much shock when the car hit me and ricocheted me forward.

If everyone obeyed the highway code’s recommendations on braking and stopping distances, then a lot of accidents could be prevented and a lot less people would not be injured or would still be alive.

Remember, only a fool breaks the two second rule!

So, take care when on the roads, exemplify good driving and remember all the people who weren’t so lucky.

In case you want to donate or go to a memorial service, here’s the link

Remembrance Events

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Sparkle without Glitter ✨

Two weeks ago, I was helping with make up and backstage for the dance show my daughter was in. The make up included glitter. A little girl said she wanted to do my make up, so I let her put glitter on my face. I forgot it was there!

The chair of the ballet club told me I sparkle without glitter. This got me thinking! Throughout my adult life, once I’ve lost my spark with something, I’ve known it was time to stop. When I gave up full time classroom teaching because I had lost my spark- it came back when I realised I could still teach without doing it full time! And I did it alongside being a make up artist. Now I do tutoring and teaching at a museum alongside coaching and Reiki. It’s variety that makes me sparkle. I like doing lots of different things. I always have. Some people have found it strange that I haven’t had just one job since I was thirty!

I just love each job I do and love the variety I get!

I used to sing and dance in amateur musicals. I stopped because it became too much when I had fibromyalgia. When I recovered, I then realised that I could now choose not to perform in shows rather than being forced not to do them. I recently left a singing group I had been in for 8 years. Not because I didn’t want to be in it anymore, in fact, the last concert was the best concert we had performed in!

It was because learning all the songs had become a chore. When something becomes a chore, it’s not enjoyable anymore. And I like my life to be enjoyable. My hobbies and my working life.

I started singing at home, for fun and have got my spark back for singing too.

So what makes me sparkle without glitter? Helping people, being with my likeminded friends, dancing, singing, my kids, dressing up, doing what makes my heart sing, being authentically me!

What makes you sparkle without glitter?

Do you do enough things that make you sparkle without glitter?

Does your work make you sparkle without glitter?

If you answered no to the last two questions, what would it take to change that?

Then take massive action to change that NOW!

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Dream, Believe, Achieve! Just do it!

Last week I went away to Devon for three days, completely on my own! It was fabulous! It was a working holiday, but was so lovely to have no time commitments, no one else to look after or think about other than myself, to have an ‘office’ in the sun by the sea.

I felt very brave, as it’s the first time I’ve been away completely on my own. Whenever I’ve been away on my own before, I’ve always been on a course or with friends in the day. So it was very freeing. I did lots of walking and meditation by the sea and overcame my fear of walking on a sea wall with a sheer drop to the sea! I even rebelled from my old rules and got not one, but two tattoos!

Dream and believe. Dream, believe, Achieve are my three core pillars when coaching and also how I live my life. And no, I’m not getting Achieve tattooed on my chest!! I represent the Achieve! I dreamt I could recover from fibromyalgia and cfs despite being told by doctors that I would always have them. I only achieved this fully when I believed I could. It wasn’t easy, but once I started changing for the better, I wanted more.

If you keep doing the same thing you get the same results. So if you start changing and get positive results, you want more positive change.

Anyway, after a fab time in Devon, I was about the get petrol so I could start my journey home and suddenly, like a bolt of lightning, my car was ricocheting forward, having been hit from behind by another car. I was so shaken, I couldn’t even remember my insurance company! I burst into tears, i hurt my ribs, back, shoulders and neck, have been exhausted since and completely lost my confidence in myself and driving. I realised how lucky I was on my way home, when I was stopped in traffic at an accident and saw lots of ambulances. Lots of my old thought patterns, worries and lack of confidence appeared. I obviously have the tools now to stop those and rose back up. I tried, but I wasn’t ready to come back up fully until I had found the learning from this accident. And I needed a little help from a friend.

So what have I learnt, realised? It made me realise how lucky I am and that life is too short – so all those things I want to do but haven’t, I need to JUST DO IT! It made me realise that I do rely on support, despite liking to be independent. And that I am lucky to have supportive friends and family. It made me realise how far I have come- I used to live in that overthinking, worrying world and I’m not sure how I coped like that all the time- although to be fair, I didn’t know any different at that point! It made me realise that things can change so quickly, that you have to seize the day.

So my message to you is not to wait for an accident or some other trauma or awful thing to happen to make you realise all these things, just do what make your heart sings all the time. Follow your heart and your gut and do what feels right to you in that moment. Because life really is too short for ‘what ifs’ or excuses. Do it now!!

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What are you waiting for? JUST DO IT!

Stronger than Yesterday!

I have a positive playlist that I listen to often, to lift me. Sometimes certain words jump out at me to give me reminders. So, my next blog posts are going to be linked to songs that provide reminders and boosts to me.

So, today’s blog is inspired by Britney Spears!

Sometimes life throws us some awful things, we can moan about them, feel negative about them and let them rule our life or we can embrace them, try to get through them, grabbing any possible positives there may be from them and let them help us to become stronger and shape us to become an even better version of ourselves than we were.

I know I am so much stronger than I used to be. I know I’m strong, when I consider I recovered from 11 1/2 years of fibromyalgia and CFS when doctors said I would always have it. Although actually carrying on with the illness proved how strong I actually am too. Just one example of my inner strength. We have lots of things in life that happen to throw us off course. It’s these challenges that can make us grow and become stronger.

All the things in life that we have to deal with make us stronger. To use lyrics from another song- ‘what doesn’t kill us makes us stronger.

The song ‘Stronger’ is one of my new Sam anchors and helped me greatly in my recovery.

If I’m feeling in need of a reminder how far I’ve come or I need to remember I am strong and resilient (which I also say daily as an affirmation), I listen to Britney who reminds me ‘I’m stronger than yesterday!’🎶🎶

I dance around to it and I feel much stronger and dancing also helps me to stay out of my internal chatroom and get into my body.

Try it. Let me know how it goes.

And remember, you can achieve whatever you want to achieve if you believe you can because you are stronger than yesterday.

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‘Let it go, that perfect girl is gone’

In the words of Elsa from Frozen, ‘Let it go, that perfect girl is gone.’ I was working this morning, whilst listening to my positive playlist and ‘let it go’ came on. I have it there as a reminder that I can let go of whatever doesn’t serve me. That’s the bit I usually focus on. Today, however, ‘that perfect girl is gone’ are the words that jumped out at me. When I had Fibromyalgia and CFS, I was always pushing myself to be perfect, despite everything being so much effort due to chronic fatigue, pain and brain fog. During my recovery, I realised that I was striving for something I wasn’t ever going to achieve. I wasn’t ever going to be the perfect girl I was hoping to be. As soon as I realised it was ok to be good enough, and I said it enough times that I actually started to believe I was good enough, I realised that was enough. I am good enough! It doesn’t mean I can’t do my best, but I am not now chasing something I will never achieve. I am awesome and I am good enough and I am much happier and healthier and freer now! So next time you’re striving to be perfect, remember, it’s ok to be good enough.

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From Chronic to Supersonic!!

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It’s ME Awareness Day today. I had ME/CFS and Fibromyalgia for 11 1/2 years. I recovered!

I hadn’t even heard of NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) three years ago and now I am a Master NLP Practitioner! NLP gave me my life back – here’s my story.

Fourteen years ago I was a healthy, active woman working as a teacher and a make up artist. My hobbies included salsa dancing and performing in amateur musicals as a singer and dancer. When I had my son, I was the happiest person alive to become a mum for the first time. Shortly after his birth though, I began having dizzy spells. I also felt constantly fatigued with widespread pain. I had bad insomnia and other symptoms.

GPs told me it was normal to feel extra tired with a new born baby and gave me some sleeping tablets! A year later, I was prescribed tablets for the dizziness.

I knew how I was feeling wasn’t ‘normal’ newborn baby tiredness! I tried acupuncture, as it had been recommended to me for insomnia and dizziness, but I still felt ill. The acupuncturist, however thought it may be fibromyalgia. So three years from the onset of my symptoms I saw a Rheumatologist and was finally diagnosed with Fibromyalgia and Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (CFS). He recommended Pilates and put me on more tablets, which didn’t work and then clashed with the dizziness medication.

As the years went on, I had to start dropping out of shows and social functions. I could push through, but would then crash for a few days to a week and so the cycle went on.

Although having my son had triggered my condition, I had another baby. I wasn’t going to let my condition stop me and I had my beautiful daughter. I continued to struggle through life, pushing myself to do more than I was actually capable of, so everyone assumed I was fine. After all, Fibromyalgia and CFS are ‘invisible illnesses’, so I didn’t look ill, despite feeling in agony and fatigued the whole time.

I gave up on GPs and struggled on the best I could. I tried deep tissue massage and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, which both helped a little. One GP told me I would always have Fibromyalgia, which I accepted and continued to cope as well as I could while getting progressively worse. I tried to live life to the extent my limitations would allow.
9 years later I had an operation that triggered my fibromyalgia and CFS symptoms to extreme levels. I was left unable to walk for more than ten minutes, with sticks, due to extreme pain and fatigue and I could no longer push myself beyond my severely restricted limits. I struggled to look after my children and spent most of my days lying on the sofa unable to move.

 

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I was desperate, on the verge of registering disabled, but I knew I had to try something before I gave in.

In February 2016, I found a 4 day course that linked the body and mind, which was based on NLP. My aim when I went on the course was to at least get back to where I was before the operation. By the end of the course, I had greatly improved and learned lots of techniques to use on my many symptoms. Although I had new resources that allowed me once more to fight back, I still had Fibromyalgia and CFS.

I was told I would be cured within five months of the course. Five months came and went and I gradually got worse despite doing all the techniques.

A year after doing the course, I knew I had to try again. NLP had helped me, so I knew it was my answer. I had to become totally positive and believe I could go all the way.
I attended a further 2 day NLP life skills course and that kick started my journey to wellness once more. I still had Fibromyalgia and CFS, but I gained more techniques and shattered limiting beliefs and I started going to Zumba again! Yes, it wiped me out and I could only do 30% effort, but I was actually doing something I never thought I would do again. My belief I could fight this had come back again.

I had already decided that if I recovered, I would become an NLP practitioner. I hadn’t recovered, but I knew that this was my only route to a full recover. Fate stepped in when I attended a course that included somatic re-patterning (movement) – I finally learnt how to get out of my head and into my body and how to live the present moment. That’s why my first course had only worked to a point, because I was still living in my head.
Over the three months of the course, I improved greatly and I metaphorically threw chronic illness out of the window on the last day of the course. I had finally recovered from Fibromyalgia and CFS! I had also shattered many limiting beliefs. I had become positive, calm and self confident. I had even become laidback – something I had never been! The living in my head had stopped.
I now had a choice! I could choose to be happy, healthy and live life to the full. Now I do Zumba with 100% effort and feel fine afterwards, 2 hours of 5 Rhythm dancing, Pilates and walking every week.
I also have lots of tools and techniques to cope with everything life throws at me. I am a completely new and improved version of myself.
Everybody tells me I look so much better now – clearly it wasn’t an invisible illness after all!
I am very thankful that my symptoms reached extreme levels because otherwise I would still be pushing through the pain and fatigue (and other symptoms) and I would not be helping other people in all areas of health and well being.
NLP has shown me there is always a solution or a way around the problem. I am living proof that you can recover from Fibromyalgia and CFS.
NLP focuses on the positive and what you want. It was created by Richard Bandler and John Grinder in the 1970s. They discovered there was a connection between neurological processes (neuro), language (linguisitic) and behavioural patterns (programming). They realised that by modelling exceptional people, they could re programme the mind and it would allow anyone to gain and use these skills. It helps you to be in control of your thoughts.
I now work with one to one clients helping them to create the life they dream of, run online courses for people with Chronic Illness, I run monthly empowerment workshops for women, I coach in schools and I am now a Reiki Therapist. As a Master NLP Practitioner, I guide clients to find the answers and to become the best versions of themselves.

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Everybody’s Awesome!

Today is National day of Awesomeness!

What does awesomeness mean to you?

The standard dictionary definition of ‘awesome’ is: ‘extremely impressive, inspiring awe!’

Cool, I’m liking that!

However, I’m liking the urban dictionary meaning even more!

‘The meaning of being awesome is you. You are the definition of awesome!’

I love this! Sometimes is easy to forget how awesome we actually are! And to trust in our gut instinct and be true and authentic to ourselves.

Remember, the more awesome you are, the more awesome everyone around you will feel.

Sometimes it’s easy to slip into self doubt or not feeling good enough or fear of failure. I used to live in that place before I discovered how awesome I actually am! And if I ever forget now, I have awesome friends who remind me!

I mix with awesome people, so I become even more awesome myself!

I also remember how far I’ve come and what I’ve achieved! After all, 3 1/2 years ago, I could hardly walk and was chronically ill with fibromyalgia and cfs and now I dance for 2 hours, walk, lead a busy life and have booked a week long dance course in August! I never thought I would be able to do that again! And now I’m a master NLP practitioner helping people to become even more awesome than they already are! 💜

I think that all makes me pretty awesome 😎 💜🙏

Here are some good affirmations linked to this:

I am awesome

I am enough

I can achieve all I want to achieve

I love myself

I believe in myself

Say each one that resonates with you, into the mirror, out loud, three times. Really breathe into the words and believe them.

Do what makes your heart sing. Do what makes your soul smile. Be authentic. Be true to you.

Be freakin’ awesome! 💜

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Be awesome! 💜