From Chronic to Supersonic!!

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It’s ME Awareness Day today. I had ME/CFS and Fibromyalgia for 11 1/2 years. I recovered!

I hadn’t even heard of NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) three years ago and now I am a Master NLP Practitioner! NLP gave me my life back – here’s my story.

Fourteen years ago I was a healthy, active woman working as a teacher and a make up artist. My hobbies included salsa dancing and performing in amateur musicals as a singer and dancer. When I had my son, I was the happiest person alive to become a mum for the first time. Shortly after his birth though, I began having dizzy spells. I also felt constantly fatigued with widespread pain. I had bad insomnia and other symptoms.

GPs told me it was normal to feel extra tired with a new born baby and gave me some sleeping tablets! A year later, I was prescribed tablets for the dizziness.

I knew how I was feeling wasn’t ‘normal’ newborn baby tiredness! I tried acupuncture, as it had been recommended to me for insomnia and dizziness, but I still felt ill. The acupuncturist, however thought it may be fibromyalgia. So three years from the onset of my symptoms I saw a Rheumatologist and was finally diagnosed with Fibromyalgia and Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (CFS). He recommended Pilates and put me on more tablets, which didn’t work and then clashed with the dizziness medication.

As the years went on, I had to start dropping out of shows and social functions. I could push through, but would then crash for a few days to a week and so the cycle went on.

Although having my son had triggered my condition, I had another baby. I wasn’t going to let my condition stop me and I had my beautiful daughter. I continued to struggle through life, pushing myself to do more than I was actually capable of, so everyone assumed I was fine. After all, Fibromyalgia and CFS are ‘invisible illnesses’, so I didn’t look ill, despite feeling in agony and fatigued the whole time.

I gave up on GPs and struggled on the best I could. I tried deep tissue massage and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, which both helped a little. One GP told me I would always have Fibromyalgia, which I accepted and continued to cope as well as I could while getting progressively worse. I tried to live life to the extent my limitations would allow.
9 years later I had an operation that triggered my fibromyalgia and CFS symptoms to extreme levels. I was left unable to walk for more than ten minutes, with sticks, due to extreme pain and fatigue and I could no longer push myself beyond my severely restricted limits. I struggled to look after my children and spent most of my days lying on the sofa unable to move.

 

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I was desperate, on the verge of registering disabled, but I knew I had to try something before I gave in.

In February 2016, I found a 4 day course that linked the body and mind, which was based on NLP. My aim when I went on the course was to at least get back to where I was before the operation. By the end of the course, I had greatly improved and learned lots of techniques to use on my many symptoms. Although I had new resources that allowed me once more to fight back, I still had Fibromyalgia and CFS.

I was told I would be cured within five months of the course. Five months came and went and I gradually got worse despite doing all the techniques.

A year after doing the course, I knew I had to try again. NLP had helped me, so I knew it was my answer. I had to become totally positive and believe I could go all the way.
I attended a further 2 day NLP life skills course and that kick started my journey to wellness once more. I still had Fibromyalgia and CFS, but I gained more techniques and shattered limiting beliefs and I started going to Zumba again! Yes, it wiped me out and I could only do 30% effort, but I was actually doing something I never thought I would do again. My belief I could fight this had come back again.

I had already decided that if I recovered, I would become an NLP practitioner. I hadn’t recovered, but I knew that this was my only route to a full recover. Fate stepped in when I attended a course that included somatic re-patterning (movement) – I finally learnt how to get out of my head and into my body and how to live the present moment. That’s why my first course had only worked to a point, because I was still living in my head.
Over the three months of the course, I improved greatly and I metaphorically threw chronic illness out of the window on the last day of the course. I had finally recovered from Fibromyalgia and CFS! I had also shattered many limiting beliefs. I had become positive, calm and self confident. I had even become laidback – something I had never been! The living in my head had stopped.
I now had a choice! I could choose to be happy, healthy and live life to the full. Now I do Zumba with 100% effort and feel fine afterwards, 2 hours of 5 Rhythm dancing, Pilates and walking every week.
I also have lots of tools and techniques to cope with everything life throws at me. I am a completely new and improved version of myself.
Everybody tells me I look so much better now – clearly it wasn’t an invisible illness after all!
I am very thankful that my symptoms reached extreme levels because otherwise I would still be pushing through the pain and fatigue (and other symptoms) and I would not be helping other people in all areas of health and well being.
NLP has shown me there is always a solution or a way around the problem. I am living proof that you can recover from Fibromyalgia and CFS.
NLP focuses on the positive and what you want. It was created by Richard Bandler and John Grinder in the 1970s. They discovered there was a connection between neurological processes (neuro), language (linguisitic) and behavioural patterns (programming). They realised that by modelling exceptional people, they could re programme the mind and it would allow anyone to gain and use these skills. It helps you to be in control of your thoughts.
I now work with one to one clients helping them to create the life they dream of, run online courses for people with Chronic Illness, I run monthly empowerment workshops for women, I coach in schools and I am now a Reiki Therapist. As a Master NLP Practitioner, I guide clients to find the answers and to become the best versions of themselves.

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Everybody’s Awesome!

Today is National day of Awesomeness!

What does awesomeness mean to you?

The standard dictionary definition of ‘awesome’ is: ‘extremely impressive, inspiring awe!’

Cool, I’m liking that!

However, I’m liking the urban dictionary meaning even more!

‘The meaning of being awesome is you. You are the definition of awesome!’

I love this! Sometimes is easy to forget how awesome we actually are! And to trust in our gut instinct and be true and authentic to ourselves.

Remember, the more awesome you are, the more awesome everyone around you will feel.

Sometimes it’s easy to slip into self doubt or not feeling good enough or fear of failure. I used to live in that place before I discovered how awesome I actually am! And if I ever forget now, I have awesome friends who remind me!

I mix with awesome people, so I become even more awesome myself!

I also remember how far I’ve come and what I’ve achieved! After all, 3 1/2 years ago, I could hardly walk and was chronically ill with fibromyalgia and cfs and now I dance for 2 hours, walk, lead a busy life and have booked a week long dance course in August! I never thought I would be able to do that again! And now I’m a master NLP practitioner helping people to become even more awesome than they already are! 💜

I think that all makes me pretty awesome 😎 💜🙏

Here are some good affirmations linked to this:

I am awesome

I am enough

I can achieve all I want to achieve

I love myself

I believe in myself

Say each one that resonates with you, into the mirror, out loud, three times. Really breathe into the words and believe them.

Do what makes your heart sing. Do what makes your soul smile. Be authentic. Be true to you.

Be freakin’ awesome! 💜

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Be awesome! 💜

Random Acts of Kindness

It’s Random Act of Kindness day!

“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment or the smaller act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.’ Leo Buscaglia

The smallest act can have a huge impact. Random act of kindness day encourages you to help spread kindness all over the world.

It can be anything from cooking a meal, paying someone a compliment, to giving to the homeless.

Not only does it cheer up the person the act of kindness is given to, but also the person giving the kindness is lifted greatly too.

I love giving to others- it makes me feel really good, whether it’s a gift, being helpful, doing a good deed for someone.

What is your act of kindness going to be?

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The Greatest Love of All

So whether you’re a fan of Valentine’s Day or whether you see it as one big commercial and marketing day for shop owners, we all have love in our lives in some shape or form.

There is one person that you can always rely on to be there for you. You! It’s a very powerful thing to be able to love yourself. I only started loving myself in November 2017, when I transformed so much at the end of the NLP practitioner course, when I recovered from fibromyalgia. I didn’t think very much of myself before that. I was very insecure, negative towards myself and I thought everyone was better than me. I didn’t think I was good enough. I had taken all the negative things I’d ever been told and believed them and let them take hold of me.

As I learnt to shatter some limiting beliefs, began to become positive and focus on what I wanted, I started to see how fabulous I was.

I have daily routines I do to help me stay calm and grounded and focus on me. I’ve been saying daily affirmations for 3 years. Now I actually believe them! Look into a mirror and say each of your affirmations three times, out loud and really breathe into the words and say them like you mean them, even if they aren’t true yet.

Mine include: I believe in myself

I love myself

I am good enough

I am strong and resilient

I have also practised gratitude every morning for three years. And I used to have a separate positive diary I wrote in every night. Now I put them all in a journal, along with my intentions for the day and extra affirmations I feel into on that day.

I meditate daily on waking and when possible, I go on a mindful walk.

I now look at myself and feel love for myself. I used to hate looking at anything other than my face. I felt ashamed of my body. Now I’m happy being me and I love myself unconditionally.

So go on, wish yourself a very happy valentine’s day and give yourself a hug and buy yourself a gift to show how much you love you! 💜💜

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You are awesome!

Mind Matters

As part of mental health awareness week, it is ‘Time to Talk Day’. Mental health problems affect 1 in 4 of us, yet people are afraid to talk about it. Time to Talk day encourages everyone to talk openly about mental health.

It helps break down stereotypes, improve relationships and recovery and take the stigma out of the still taboo subject that affects us all.

Mental health issues are very close to my heart. As well as someone close to me suffering from mental health issues, my mental health has improved greatly since discovering NLP and changing so much. I used to live constantly in my head, worrying about everything that could possibly go wrong , building things up until those worries made me ill. My inner self talk was very negative. I also took on everyone else’s negativity and issues. I believe that how all this came out in me, was through fibromyalgia and CFS. As well as recovering from them using NLP, I also became calmer, more confident, laidback and positive. And I no longer lived in my head. It wasn’t easy and whilst it took me a year and 3/4 to recover, I am still improving all the time.

I now have the tools to help me when I have stressful situations to deal with. I also find I live in the moment and deal with things that are thrown at me, at the time, rather than worrying about them like I used to, this enabling me to cope with them calmly.

I can be spontaneous and have fun, rather than living a life worrying about the ‘what ifs’ and worse case scenarios or reliving events from the past.

Life is for living in the now, not worrying about the past or future! I never thought I would ever get to a point that I would actually say that and mean it and do it!

If I can do that, anything is possible!

Peace and love to you all 💜✨🙏

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The Power of Vulnerability

I am a very open person, some say, too open- I wear my heart on my sleeve. Sometimes my openness makes me vulnerable and more open to being hurt.

In fact, as I’m writing this blog, I am feeling very vulnerable! Will I actually be brave enough to post it?! Yes, of course I will!

The dictionary definition of vulnerable is: “exposed to the possibility of being attacked or harmed either physically or emotionally. ”

I have been vulnerable many times in my life. And have been attacked and harmed physically and emotionally.

Including being bullied physically at 6 years old, verbally bullied at 11 years old (much more harmful to me) and in my 20s by so called friends. To name a few times of vulnerability I’m willing to mention!

In these examples, I let people use my vulnerability to make themselves feel more powerful, as bullies are usually cowards and prey on others who they deem as weaker and who won’t fight back.

Now I use my vulnerability to seek the truth. And even if that truth is hurtful, it can then help you to let go of what’s been holding you back, so you can move forward and it can also give you power. I have experienced the power of vulnerability and I now use it to make me stronger and to thrive rather than just survive.

I love the urban dictionary definition of vulnerability:

“Vulnerability is a chance to grow and shed pieces of the past.”

This is exactly how I see it.

“Being open and genuine about feelings of the heart, mind, body and soul. Trust without self judgement or fear of reaction and judgement from others.”

This describes me exactly!

It also goes on to say,” There is healing strength and power in having the confidence to admit, let go and forgive.”

Totally!

There certainly is, and it has worked for me. And going back to the bully scenario of bullies thinking they are picking on weak people- being vulnerable is what has given me my strength. I used to let my vulnerability build up and I took all the negativity from it and let all those emotional and physical attacks stay with me and hold me back and I now believe it’s what contributed to me having fibromyalgia and cfs. Learning how to let go of this stuff through NLP was one of the keys to my recovery. I now know how to use vulnerability as my strength and from that I feel great power.

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Why hugs are often the best medicine

It’s national hug day today!

Those of you who know me well will know I love hugs! Maybe that’s why I mix in an dram, NLP and 5 Rhythms circles, as hugging is an essential part of all of those! 💜

So as well as feeling nice to hug someone for comfort, to say hello, to say you’re there for them, to say you care and so on, research shows that hugging has healing qualities.

Research shows that a deep close hug, with hearts pressing together can benefit you in many ways.

Scientists say that supporting someone through touch can reduce stress in the person being comforted and the person doing the comforting.

Firm hugs instantly boost levels of oxytocin, which heals feelings of anger and loneliness. Oxytocin increases levels of feel good hormones such as serotonin and dopamine, which has calming effects, lifts your mood and makes you feel happier.

Hugs bring us into the present moment.

With a hug you are giving and receiving. Showing us that love flows both ways.

Hugging someone relaxes us, thus releasing tension in the body.

Hugs balance the nervous system.

Energy is exchanged between two people hugging.

So next time you hug someone, remember all the benefits as well as the reason for the hug!

A quote on my website by Virginia Satir about hugging: “we need four hugs a day for survival. We need eight hugs a day for maintenance. We need twelve hugs a day for growth.”

So I’m off to find someone to hug!! 🤗🤗🤗

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