What is the universe trying to tell me?

I’m sure there’s been lots of times in your life when everything is going well and then something happens to stop you in your tracks. It’s very easy to start thinking, why do these things always happen to me. And start thinking negatively and getting down about it.

What would happen if you breathed into it and asked, what is the universe trying to tell me? What message can I take from this situation? What silver lining can I find? What learning point can I take?

My most major thing was having fibromyalgia and cfs for eleven years. When after nine years, the symptoms were pushed to extreme levels by an operation, instead of accepting I would have to register disabled and be like this for life, I was desperate to find a way out. I did! And for being that ill, I am truly grateful. Because I would still have fibromyalgia and cfs now otherwise! Instead, I am fully recovered, a completely different person, calm, confident, laidback (I was never that before!!)and am now a master NLP practitioner helping others with chronic illness and other areas of health and well being.

Anyway, something happened to me last week- not as major as that, but it has stopped me in my tracks! Last week, I was dancing at my weekly 5 Rhythms I attend and I lost my footing, fell down and hurt my wrist. I drove home in agony and went to the hospital. It was put in a splint and after going back for x rays the next day, I was told I had fractured my wrist in one, maybe two areas. My goal in the last year was to be free. Suddenly I felt trapped. Suddenly, I couldn’t drive and I was reliant on my family and friends. I could have carried on being the ‘victim’ and wallowed in ‘woe is me’ self pity. Instead I realised that it is ok to ask for help. I help others if they are struggling, so surely, I could ask people to help me. And I have and am very grateful to those who have ferried me around and are going to ferry me around and to those who have helped out ferrying my children around! Also to my clients who have been very amenable.

So what was the universe saying to me? A friend told me that he’d been told when he broke his wrist, that maybe the universe is telling you to take a break. I thought about this. Yes, probably! I do tend to rush about doing lots of things! So I think it’s probably telling me to prioritise and just do the things I am able to. If I have to take a silver lining from breaking my right wrist (yes, I’m right handed!), it’s the following. I travel to most of my clients and I also travel to the home Ed students I tutor. I can’t drive at the moment! So, I have been video call tutoring, which has given me back an hour and a half of time when I would be travelling! Also, I have been Skyping clients or they are coming to me. I am always on the look out for new clients and I was wondering how I would fit them in and do all my other work. I think breaking my wrist was probably quite a drastic way of trying to work out how I transition from travelling to Skyping and clients coming to me!! However, it’s forced me into it and it’s given me some time back! So for that I’m grateful and I can move on from here, even when I can drive again! And start charging extra if I travel to clients.

So I am grateful for breaking my wrist, however painful and frustrating it is. And I am truly grateful to my lovely friends and family for driving me (and my children!) around. I truly appreciate it and realise how lucky I am.

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New Year, New You!

Happy New Year!

Welcome to my blog. I will tell you more about myself another time.

I was just wondering whether you’d made a new year’s resolution? Lots of people set goals at this time of year, as they start a new year. To lose weight, give up smoking, to do more exercise etc. But according to research less than 10% of them are kept by the end of the year. 25% of people have given up by the end of January.

Why is that?

Maybe people aren’t setting the right goal. If you just want to lose weight or do more exercise, try being specific. For example, how much weight would you like to lose? Which exercise specifically? Are you aiming to run 5km? Or go to the gym for 30mins three times a week? The more specific you are, the more likely you are to stick to it. Once you reach that, you can move the goal to another specific one.

Another thing to remember is to filter for positive. If you’re trying to lose weight and you focus on not being able to eat chocolate or cake, then you’re more likely to want to eat those things. If you focus on the food you can eat, like juicy strawberries or a tasty vegetable stir fry, then you will be more likely to stick to it.

Also when setting a goal, make sure it reflects what you actually want to achieve.

According to some research, it takes 21 days to form a new habit. Some research says this isn’t true and it takes much longer. Maybe that’s why lots of resolutions are broken by the end of January!

If you’d like help keeping your New Years resolutions and goals email me on sam@unique-coaching.co.uk to see how I can help you.